When we were growing up family gatherings were a big deal. To us they were part of something we called a “tradition,” but something has happened. The idea of doing things “just because” seems to be slipping away from us. Please tell me I am wrong about this; tell me what you are doing to keep traditions alive in your family.
I can remember when relatives gathered from near and far to celebrate the holidays. We went “over the river and through the woods” to grandmothers house for all important holidays. The big old fashioned house on the hill was perfect for sledding and there was room for everyone to stay. Generations were spanned. Kids would play outside for hours on end. Aunts and uncles gathered in the kitchen to drink coffee (or maybe something more interesting) and help with dinner preparations and household chores.
The holidays, especially Christmas, were memorable; the Christmas tree was huge and the presents plentiful. Christmas dinners were out of this world and there were dozens and dozens of different kinds of homemade cookies and candies. We managed to have a good time without benefit of television sets, football games, cell phones or other electronic gadgets. Nobody complained about being bored.
What happened to family gatherings? Every year advice columnists get letters from people begging for permission to avoid family gatherings. They say they want to start their “own traditions” instead, but is that it?
The loss of traditional “traditions” have made holidays especially difficult for seniors as they mull the passing of time, the absence of loved ones, and loneliness. It is sad indeed. What can we do make holidays joyous again?
Let’s make an effort to combat the blues by getting involved with others, family or not. Decorate your home, listen to music, and watch warm fuzzy holiday movies. Get together with friends and seriously consider volunteering; drop-in helpers are welcome at shelters and soup kitchens everywhere.
As for the rest of you, I’m sorry if starting your “own tradition” is more important than being part of something bigger than yourself, but know that you will be missed. I hope your new traditions are more significant than attending office parties, football games, and having dinner on a tray in the living room.
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