Old people are invisible. How does that make you feel? If you feel insignificant, unrecognized, and unimportant to others you may have bought into this theory.
Everyone has the right to feel that they matter to others and that their presence, needs, and opinions have relevance.
Invisibility. It could be your gray hair, the slower gait, or just your quiet demeaner, but in essence it is more likely how you feel about yourself.
It’s not just you. Unless you are an actor or a sports figure you have probably been invisible for years; you just notice it more now.
If you think of invisibility as a gift, you might find it more palatable. You get to spend more time in your head, which isn’t a bad place to be. You no longer need to worry about what others think, or don’t think, about you.
You can play the invisible card anytime you please. The payoff is peace, and solitude on demand. Learn how to enjoy this perceived invisibility. You can get away with most anything if people don’t see you. Nobody knows if you accidentally donned mismatched earring, or if your shoes don’t match, or if you can’t remember if you combed your easy “demented pixie” hairdo this morning. I’ve done all those things at one time or another, but so what. Friends thought it was funny, but most others didn’t even notice.
People in general are so self-absorbed that if you aren’t in their immediate circle, they forget that you exist, unless you do something outrageous.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Speak your mind. Having several college degrees and a lifetime of experience should count for something. You are here, you are well informed, and your voice matters.
You can be as visible as you want to be but know that your behaviors speak as loudly as your words. Take charge, be confident, take care of yourself. Make yourself a part of every equation.
Be visibility by having compassion for others and by treating them well. Act with sincerity and for heaven’s sake, be nicer to others than they are to you.
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