There are dozens of self-help books on the market that will tell you how to handle just about anything. You may have read several of them, but if they didn’t strike an emotional chord, you are still in limbo.
Reading is a good thing. You will not only absorb information, but you will find that you are not alone. Still, you can read and read and read but your own biases will always creep in. Biases that will prevent you from seeing what is right in front of your nose.
You need to approach the whole process in the same businesslike manner that you have used in the past. Do this by considering a second, or even a third, opinion. Opinions, not just to evaluate plans, but to evaluate you. Talk to your Primary Care Physician and ask him/her for an impartial evaluation.
An unbiased opinion by an outsider, not your nearest and dearest, can put everything in perspective. Do not dismiss recommendations out of hand.
What will a professional be looking at:
• mental and physical capabilities
• your willingness to accept help
• your ability to do mundane things like grocery shopping and preparing nutritious meals
• your understanding of your own health care needs (present and future)
• your mobility and transportation needs
• communication skills and support systems
• willingness to “senior-proofed” your home
• provisions made for home maintenance and financial planning
• An understanding of the importance of education and recreational pursuits
You can tell by the breath of the list why a second opinion might be necessary. It’s a lot to grasp all at once.
The term “activities of daily living” come into play often. It simply means being in control. You needn’t be ashamed if you fall short in some areas. Acknowledging that you have limitations is the first step toward learning how to manage. If you are comfortable performing activities of daily living, you can do anything.
Understand that you can hire help for financial planning, housekeeping, yard work, and transportation and still be considered independent.
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