Smart Senior

Self-Assessments
How honest can you be when it comes to assessing your own capabilities or shortcomings?
Try doing an initial assessment on yourself. You may not like what you discover, but it is a great tool. Are you a problem solver, or are you the guy/gal who shrugs your shoulders and thinks the status quo is good enough?
Too many seniors refuse to ask for help because they don’t “want to be a burden.” In most cases this is nonsense because friends and relatives really do want to help. It makes them feel good. If your people no longer offer their assistance, it is likely because you may have rebuffed them in the past and unknowingly hurt their feelings.
Speak up. They already know that you don’t want to be a burden, but surely you can find a solution that works for all of you. Being independent is a good thing, but putting yourself in peril is not. Have that “talk.” Accept what help they can realistically give to you and be willing to use outside resources for the rest.
You want to be in charge, which is understandable. Unless you are exhibiting reduced mental capacities, or there is evidence that you are a danger to yourself or others, you should be in on decisions being made in your life.
Accept that you may have to make some changes. If you have trouble identifying your concerns, and are reluctant to speak about them, you need to change your way of thinking. Forget that “burden” mindset. Remember what it felt like when you were the one offering care and support to your friends and family. If felt good. Do not be ashamed that it is your turn to be on the receiving end now.
If you are truly alone, consider professional help. Your health care team is a good place to start. Physicians, Social Workers, Dietitians, Therapists, as well as your State Division on Aging are all committed to helping you retain your independence. Accepting help does not impinge on your independent status. You are not alone here.